Sorry, I just have to vent. No offense to all the folks who have babies, but seriously, do you ever consider those of us who are getting started later in life on the marriage road when you decide to have kids? I think not, and I consider it very selfish of you.
You sit down with your spouse, partner, whatever, and you have that conversation about kids. These are the things that get discussed: Should you have them? Can you afford them? Will one of you stay home or will they go in day care? What about their education? Will you have to move to get into a better school district? And if you have one, should you have 2?
They say it takes a village to raise a child, but you know what? That whole conversation is completely about YOU! It's all about how having a kid will affect YOUR life. Know what's missing from that conversation? ME! ME and my unmarried self who is so excited that I have finally found the man I am going to spend the rest of my life with, who has finally gotten past the stress of having to find a place to get married, but who is starting to realize that with a seating limit of 150 guests if you include all the kids that you so thoughtlessly decided to have (and some of you had the gall to have more than 1), we end up with 38 children. That's right, THIRTY-EIGHT!
How am I supposed to fit the adults that I have known for years and desperately want at the wedding when 38 of the seats/meals are going to be taken up by toddlers? And it doesn't matter if little Billy only wants a pbj sandwich, we have to pay for the whole meal, which is only slightly less than the adults. (Thankfully, none of our friends' children are named Billy. But if one is and I forgot, then please know this post isn't about you. It's about ALL people with kids, including my nephews!) Not to mention the lodging! We have space for only 56. Everyone else will be on their own. But the sheer number of kids even in that area mean that more folks will have to camp or find their own lodging than I would prefer.
It has been suggested to me that I have a kid-free wedding. Not gonna happen. I have nephews and there are some kids that I am very close to. Also, it's a weekend event. You can't ask people coming from Seattle to leave their children with someone else. Not to mention the people coming from across the country. (Would you mind leaving the baby in the lost and found for 48 hours? I'm sure it will be fine!) Another suggestion was to only have them at the wedding, not the reception. Not feasible in light of the location. Another idea was to only allow children that are in the wedding party. Well, I would either have to have an enormous wedding party involving children or we are still faced with the same issue since it's an on-site out of town wedding.
I know I will figure it out. I just thought the thinking part would be over. Maybe it won't be that big of a deal. I just wish some of my friends weren't so inconsiderate when it comes to my wedding!
Do me a favor, try not to get prenant in the next 5 months.
You sit down with your spouse, partner, whatever, and you have that conversation about kids. These are the things that get discussed: Should you have them? Can you afford them? Will one of you stay home or will they go in day care? What about their education? Will you have to move to get into a better school district? And if you have one, should you have 2?
They say it takes a village to raise a child, but you know what? That whole conversation is completely about YOU! It's all about how having a kid will affect YOUR life. Know what's missing from that conversation? ME! ME and my unmarried self who is so excited that I have finally found the man I am going to spend the rest of my life with, who has finally gotten past the stress of having to find a place to get married, but who is starting to realize that with a seating limit of 150 guests if you include all the kids that you so thoughtlessly decided to have (and some of you had the gall to have more than 1), we end up with 38 children. That's right, THIRTY-EIGHT!
How am I supposed to fit the adults that I have known for years and desperately want at the wedding when 38 of the seats/meals are going to be taken up by toddlers? And it doesn't matter if little Billy only wants a pbj sandwich, we have to pay for the whole meal, which is only slightly less than the adults. (Thankfully, none of our friends' children are named Billy. But if one is and I forgot, then please know this post isn't about you. It's about ALL people with kids, including my nephews!) Not to mention the lodging! We have space for only 56. Everyone else will be on their own. But the sheer number of kids even in that area mean that more folks will have to camp or find their own lodging than I would prefer.
It has been suggested to me that I have a kid-free wedding. Not gonna happen. I have nephews and there are some kids that I am very close to. Also, it's a weekend event. You can't ask people coming from Seattle to leave their children with someone else. Not to mention the people coming from across the country. (Would you mind leaving the baby in the lost and found for 48 hours? I'm sure it will be fine!) Another suggestion was to only have them at the wedding, not the reception. Not feasible in light of the location. Another idea was to only allow children that are in the wedding party. Well, I would either have to have an enormous wedding party involving children or we are still faced with the same issue since it's an on-site out of town wedding.
I know I will figure it out. I just thought the thinking part would be over. Maybe it won't be that big of a deal. I just wish some of my friends weren't so inconsiderate when it comes to my wedding!
Do me a favor, try not to get prenant in the next 5 months.
